I wanted to take a free minute to thank people for the unbelievable amount of support and kindness you've been showing me and John these last few weeks (and, lets face it, YEARS) but since I'm not going to GET a free minute I might as well do it now.:)
To everyone who wanted to be there sent us good wishes electronically, thank you. I'd list you, but there are too many, and its all documented for everyone to see anyway.:) You were there. Don't sweat it.
To everyone that sent love and hugs and good wishes by personal courier, thanks. Kate, Michael, Scott, Stacia, Leila, thank you so much. Kind thoughts really do make a world of difference.
To the friends we don't get to see often who came to be there for us, thank you so so much. Gary and Susan, Lawrence, Denis, Eric, Tom B, Brian, Ben, Barb, Dave L. Thank you. Friendly faces in that sea of strangers were an enormous comfort, and seeing you always makes me feel like the world hangs together by more than just spit and bailing wire.
I want to especially thank Shelly. As always, you are a deeply comforting and fortifying presence. I'm really glad you were there.
To the friends we get to see a little more often but never often enough who showed up to support and entertain us throughout, Sean, Rebecca, Ken, Moira, Mike, Laura, thank you for being there. Its hard to acknowledge you like you deserve because when things are hard you're more like oxygen than friends, quietly and perfectly keeping everything alive. Thank you thank you thank you.
I want to especially thank Ninja and Hugh for showing up on their way to New York to be with Del, and to Del, and to Hugh for his services graveside when called upon at the last minute. There's nothing profound enough, so I'll be trite. The three of you are made of awesome.
To my family who came, Mom and Dad, Greg and Lobo, thank you. You take such good care of me. I can't possibly deserve you. And Liz and Joe. I know you were there.:)
And the hubby thanks you too, and deserves acknowledgement of his own for being such a sweet, conscientious, strong, and thoughtful son, brother, husband, and host throughout this ordeal.
A lot of you have been asking me how he's doing. He's ok. We've both been parsing this whole thing in bits for the last year, and there's still some stuff to work on, but its not overwhealming. Mostly its just that good pain of missing someone proportionate to how much you will always love them, and I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
